Alchemy Forest
What are Hellinger's Family Constellations?
Do you ever feel like you’re working twice as hard as everyone else but still hitting an invisible wall? Whether it’s your bank account, your career, or your marriage, it often feels like you’re following a script you didn’t write.
In Ireland, we carry a heavy history. For generations, our ancestors faced poverty, famine, and the brutal struggle of life on the land. While the times have changed, the "survival mode" of our grandparents often lives on inside us.
The Invisible Loyalty to Poverty
If your family history is rooted in farming or struggle, you might be carrying a "poverty consciousness" without even knowing it.
* The Guilt of Success: You might find it hard to earn money easily. Subconsciously, you might feel that if life isn’t a struggle, you’re "betraying" the hard work of those who came before you.
* The Unconscious Barrier: You might sabotage your own success because, deep down, it feels safer to stay "small" and "struggling"—just like your family was.
Do Your Relationships Feel Familiar?
Take a look at your partner or how you communicate. Do you see the same silences, the same arguments, or the same emotional distance that your parents or grandparents had?
* We often unconsciously copy their relationship patterns as a way of belonging to the family.
* We find ourselves stuck in the same cycles of "hard love" because that’s the only map we were given.
What are Family Constellations?
This isn't about traditional "talk therapy" where you go over the same stories for years. It’s a way to look at the hidden map of your family system.
We look at the "knots" in your family tree—the ancestors who suffered, the ones who were forgotten, or the ones who never had a break. By acknowledging their hard journey, we can finally stop repeating it.
The Goal is Simple: To be able to look back at your ancestors and say: "I see how hard it was for you, and I honor that. But now, I give myself permission to do it differently. I choose to be happy. I choose to be successful."
Break the Cycle
You don’t have to carry the weight of the past to prove you belong to your family. You can honor your history while living a life that is light, abundant, and uniquely yours.
Benefits of Family Constellations:
Forget the "spiritual" jargon for a second. Let's talk about the actual shifts my clients see in their day-to-day lives. When you stop carrying the heavy "emotional luggage" of your ancestors, things start to move—fast.
1. Breaking the Relationship "Loop"
Are you tired of dating the same person with a different face? Or having the same argument with your spouse for the tenth year in a row?
We get in there and break the pattern. You’ll stop unconsciously looking for your father in your partner or your mother in your boss. You finally get to have a relationship that is actually about you and them, not the ghosts of the past.
2. Unblocking the Money Flow
If you feel like you have to "kill yourself working" just to stay afloat, that’s often a family loyalty to poverty. I’ve seen clients suddenly find their "flow"—promotions they were afraid to ask for, or businesses finally turning a profit—because they finally gave themselves permission to be wealthier than their parents.
3. Shedding the Physical Weight
This is a beautiful and often surprising result. I’ve had clients lose up to 2 stone after a constellation. Why? Because often, that extra weight is "protection" or a physical way of carrying a burden for someone else in your family tree. When you "put down" the family trauma, your body doesn't need to carry the weight anymore. You literally feel lighter, and the pounds follow.
4. Stopping the "Hand-Me-Down" Anxiety
You know that "dread" you feel in the morning for no reason? Or that constant worry that the other shoe is about to drop? That’s often a survival response passed down through generations. We help you leave that anxiety back in the history books where it belongs, so you can actually enjoy your life today.
5. Clarity for the Big Decisions
Should you move? Should you leave that job? Should you buy that house? When your system is "clogged" with old family dramas, it’s hard to hear your own gut instinct. Constellations clear the static so you can see your path clearly.
What does Hellinger's Family Constellation therapy look like?
Forget sitting in a room talking for hours. Our workshops are active, fascinating, and deeply moving. Here is how the magic unfolds:
* The Circle: we sit in a warm, supportive circle. It’s a grounded space where everyone is equal.
* Your Turn: You’ll sit beside me for a brief chat. You don’t need to share your whole life story—just tell me what feels "stuck."
* The Setup: I’ll ask you to pick people from the circle to represent members of your family (or even things like "Your Career" or "Your Health"). You’ll place them in the room based on your intuition.
* The "Field" Wakes Up: This is the cool part. Even though these people don’t know you, they’ll start to feel real emotions and physical sensations belonging to your family. It’s like they’re tuning into a frequency that’s been playing in your life for years.
* Finding the "Clog": We watch as the hidden "knots" in your family history reveal themselves. You’ll finally see why things have been so hard.
* The Shift: We move the representatives and use simple, powerful words to clear the energy. You’ll feel the atmosphere in the room change—it’s a literal "lightbulb" moment that you feel in your bones.
The Result? You walk away feeling lighter, clearer, and finally free from a story that wasn't yours to carry. Most people leave saying, "I can't explain it, but I feel like a weight has been lifted."
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